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How to cope whenever your kids are with their other parent

On Behalf of | Aug 17, 2023 | Child Custody, Divorce |

Joint managing conservatorship is usually the default arrangement the court awards parents in Texas. Conservatorship is synonymous with child custody. Joint managing conservatorship is like joint legal custody, where you and the other parent share legal rights to make significant decisions for your children. One parent might be the custodial parent, which means their home is the children’s primary residence. However, the other parent can still spend a significant amount of time with the children in accordance with the standard possession order.

Being apart from your kids is a painful experience for any newly divorced parent. Whenever your children are away, it is only normal to feel a sense of loneliness and emptiness. But dwelling too much on these thoughts can do more harm to your psychological health. Here are ways you can cope when your children are away:

Make plans

Many parents long for some time away from their kids to do things they want to do. You can arrange a movie night out, exercise or get a massage. The important thing is that you keep yourself occupied so you avoid sulking and pondering about negative thoughts and emotions.

Form a support group

It would help if you looked for someone you can talk to and confide in, someone who understands you and will not invalidate your feelings. What you are feeling is understandable, especially since you have just gone through a divorce and now must deal with your children being away. You are not alone. You have friends and family who will be there for you no matter what. When all else fails, you should never shy away from seeking professional help. They will know how best to approach and mitigate your distress.

Schedule regular communication with your kids

While your kids are away, you can ask them to call you or send you regular messages so that you know how they are doing. You can also tell your ex to ensure the kids have adequate time and resources to keep in constant communication with you. They can keep you updated, and somehow it will feel that they are still there even though not physically.

Do not let hurt feelings control you

If you allow these adverse feelings to get the better of you, you might do something you regret. Remember that conservatorship arrangements are modifiable; your ex can use anything you say or do against you. Always remain calm and prioritize yourself and your kids. Avoid confronting your ex or talking ill about them to your children.

Children should have a healthy and continuing relationship with both parents unless either parent is unfit. They deserve stability and security just as much as you do. By focusing on your well-being, you can be a better parent when your kids finally return home.