Divorce is among the most emotionally difficult times in most people’s lives. Your marriage is ending, there is often significant conflict and you are likely facing substantial uncertainty about your future.
Those going through divorce often forget to take care of their mental health. For parents going through divorce, their own mental health often takes a backseat to the needs of their children.
Still, no matter the circumstances, it is extremely important that people maintain awareness of their own mental health needs during the divorce.
Ways to cope during divorce
There are a number of things a person can do to help them cope with divorce.
First, make sure to take time for yourself. Remember that it is okay to relax or spend time on activities that you enjoy. Perhaps explore a new hobby or read an interesting book.
Second, reach out to friends or other support persons. You do not have to go through divorce alone. There are often support groups that can help you meet others also going through divorce.
Third, recognize that it is normal to feel different emotions. You may feel sad, frustrated or anxious, and that is okay. When experiencing intense emotions, remember the importance of self-care and social support.
Helping the kids
There are several steps that you can take to help children cope with divorce.
Many children wrongly believe that a divorce is their fault, so be certain to tell your children that they are not responsible. Listen to and validate their concerns and emotions.
Where possible, stick to routines that can help give children a sense of stability.
And most important, do not involve the children in any conflict between you and your spouse.
If you are considering or experiencing divorce, you should consult with an experienced attorney who can help make the process as easy as possible for you and your children.