Knowing you will spend time away from your children can be one of the scariest parts of going through the custody process. Most parents are used to being with their children every day and night.
While you may accept that separating with your co-parent is the best choice, accepting that this means giving up being with your children full-time is often harder. Texas courts recognize this and often place language in custody orders that allow parents to maintain daily phone or video contact with their children on days they do not have custody.
The purpose of daily contact is to alleviate the fear and anxiety that accompany being away from your children. Daily contact with both parents is generally viewed as being in children’s best interests.
Typically, the best way to ensure that you receive your daily contact is to set a specific time each day that works for everyone. This might be after school and before dinner or after dinner and before bedtime.
How long do I get?
There is no required length of time for the phone or video calls. You and your co-parent can agree on the length or request that a court order one.
Your children’s age is a factor to consider. Generally, shorter calls are easier for younger children with short attention spans. The calls may become longer as your children get older and communication becomes easier and you have more to talk about.
However, as children progress into their teenage years, the calls might become shorter again as they become more independent. Your children may also have their own phones at some point and be able to contact you at their discretion.
Remember that the point is to help your children maintain contact with you and strengthen your bond with them while providing you with peace of mind, knowing their needs are being met and they are well taken care of in your absence.
What if my co-parent won’t allow it?
If your co-parent does not allow the daily phone or video contact in your custody order, they may be in contempt of the order. You should document each day and time you miss and consider filing a contempt petition with the court.