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3 things to do before creating a custody agreement

On Behalf of | Jan 23, 2025 | Child Custody |

Preparing a custody or parenting agreement is perhaps one of the most difficult parts of a divorce. Besides the fact that it can be an emotional process, there are a lot of things you have to consider. These include your parenting plan, visitation schedules, transportation arrangements and so on. 

With so many details to plan, there can be plenty of room for mistakes and disagreements. Nevertheless, you can make the process easier with these simple steps. 

Take the time to cool off 

One of the biggest mistakes parents can make is creating a custody agreement while heated. When emotions run high, it can lead to difficulty communicating or refusal to compromise. For some parents, emotional stress can cloud judgment and cause decisions that aren’t in the child’s best interest. 

That said, take some time to cool off if there is still too much tension between you and your former spouse. While a parenting plan may be time-sensitive, creating it with a clear head will ultimately be better for your children. 

Understand the elements of a custody agreement 

Research what you need to include in your custody agreement such as: 

  • Legal custody: Specifies who has the right to make major decisions about your child’s upbringing. 
  • Physical custody: Outlines where the child will live and when. Includes a detailed visitation schedule. 
  • Parenting time schedule: Details regular weekday and weekend arrangements. 
  • Holiday and vacation schedules: Allocates time for holidays, birthdays, school breaks and other significant events. 

Every family situation is unique, and your custody agreement should be tailored to your child’s specific needs.  

Communicate with your co-parent 

Your former partner may no longer be your spouse, but they are still your coparent. Open communication can foster a healthy co-parenting relationship, starting with a custody agreement that works best for everyone. 

Set aside time to discuss your parenting plan. Take the opportunity to negotiate and compromise. As mentioned, there are a lot of details you must consider, so having enough time to discuss them all can help you make a solid plan. 

Seek professional help 

Planning your family’s future can be difficult, but you don’t have to do it all by yourself. Consider seeking help from a family lawyer who can guide you and your co-parent through the process. With legal counsel, you can come up with an arrangement that is collaborative, reasonable and legally sound.