After endlessly trying to resolve your disputes, you must face the facts. You and your ex do not get along. Divorce is your only option, yet you cannot even agree to disagree. It makes it even more challenging to reach a settlement.
A contested divorce is when the parties are unable to agree on the terms and conditions of their divorce, thus requiring court intervention. You go to trial so a judge can decide on the issues on your behalf. Appearing in court to battle out your disputes can be highly stressful and emotionally draining, but you must keep your emotions in check.
How to keep your emotions in check during a contested divorce
Divorcing parties experience a great deal of emotional distress. You have no control over the outcome of your case in a contested divorce. It is important to follow these tips so can manage your emotions during the trial:
- Keep calm: Inappropriate outward behavior can negatively impact how the court will judge your ability to maintain child custody. It can also make you look like the liable party in an at-fault divorce.
- Acknowledge your feelings: It is okay to feel sadness and anger, but trying to repress your emotions can be detrimental to your overall mental health.
- Seek emotional support: Your family members and friends can help you significantly as you enter divorce proceedings. You are not alone in this.
- Take care of your emotional and physical well-being: Exercising produces endorphins that will assist in relieving your stress. Similarly, if you think you need to talk to a mental health professional, there is no reason you should not take this time to process your emotions with additional assistance.
When you let your emotions get the best of you, they can control and impair your mental facilities. If that happens, you may be pushing the court’s judgment in favor of the other party. A judge will not only base their decisions on your financial circumstance but also consider your moral character.
Remember to continue moving forward
You are here to finalize your divorce, not to prolong it. Choosing to move forward will entail strength and determination. It is the only way to settle disputes without bringing back the pain of the past. Divorce may be the end of your marriage, but remember, it is also the beginning of an entirely new life.